Last weekend Clayton and I celebrated our 5 year anniversary!!! I am still trying to figure out where those 5yrs went but I guess time flies when you are having fun! The last 5 years have been truly amazing even when I think of some of the hardships we have faced, we faced them together, because I truly believe we are stronger together.
Clayton and I were married at the ripe age of 23 and when we met I knew he was everything I wanted and more. Many were probably skeptical but we both knew we were in it for the long haul! We were married on my grandparents farm just north of a town called Delia and the day was everything I could have possibly imagined and more.
(Photos by Kelsy Nielson Photography, Makeup by Faces By Olive, Flowers by Callingwood Flowers)
In experiencing life together not only for the last 5years we’ve been married but for our entire relationships Ive learned a ton, grown as an individual, a wife and now a soon to be mama. I wanted to share how we’ve made it through the last 5years smiling and enjoying life even in the worst of times.
Pick your battles – This is HUGE for us, if its a small issue that really doesn’t impact your lives in any major form, put your pride aside and let it go whether you are wrong or right, it doesn’t matter!!! This is something we initially had some difficulty with because we are both very head strong but with some patience it is something we have come to excel at.
That leads me to my next learned lesson, patience, a very close second! No human being is perfect and it takes time to develop and learn the ins and out of your partners, for us years hahaha. I am definitely the more impatient one in the relationship but Clayton has learned to balance that out!
Play to their strength. If you’ve been with someone long enough you become very familiar with their strengths and weaknesses! Always play to their strength, and help in whatever way you can to make their weaknesses their strength. Ive always wanted the best for Clayton and for our family so doing whatever I can to help him rewards not only him but our family.
Laugh! Laugh! Laugh! And have fun! This is something I believe we excel at. We are always making each other laugh, scaring each other, playing pranks on each other and it keeps our relationship young, fun and playful!
It is not your partners responsibility to make you happy. I truly believe if you are not happy on your own you can never truly be happy in a relationship. Take time to do things that make you as an individual happy. Whether its going to the gym, taking that art or baking class you’ve been wanting to do, do it!! Enjoy your life and be happy, this will truly enhance you as an indidivual and you as a partner in a relationship!
Its the little things that really matter. Whether its picking up a steep tea on his way home, making me breakfast in bed or bringing flowers home just because, those little acts mean the world. It means they are thinking about you, they care about you and want you to be happy. We both really try to make sure we do the little things for each other because overall they amount to such big things!
In the end these may not all work for you and your relationship but they have continued to make the difference in ours!
Hope you have a beautiful long weekend!
Photos by Wild Love, Makeup By Rakhee of Blushed Beaute, Flowers by Callingwood Flowers